10. Do-It-Yourself – do the paperwork yourself. In Alberta, you can pickup a divorce kit at stationary stores. In Saskatchewan, you pickup an “uncontested divorce kit” at the Queen’s Bench. I recommend talking to a lawyer, even if only briefly, to ensure that this is the right course for you.
9. Hire a lawyer as a “coach” – you may need a lawyer to iron out the rough patches, but the rest of the divorce can be done on your own.
8. Consider using Collaborative Law – you and your spouse agree to work as a team in 4-way meetings with your lawyers to resolve your separation issues, instead of going to court.
7. Consider using Mediation – a mediator, as neutral 3rd party, will facilitate your discussions to assist you to achieve your own solution to your separation issues.
6. Attend the free Parenting After Separation course – learn about your kids’ needs after separation and about the legal process of divorce.
5. Attend divorce counselling – a professional counsellor will assist you to get a handle on the emotional side of divorce. Lawyers are not usually counsellors – keep the expertise separate.
4. Keep your emotions separate from the divorce process – the more fighting and emotions that arise, the more your fees will increase because your lawyer has to spend time resolving the matters.
3. Consolidate your phone calls or emails – most lawyers charge in 6-minute or 15-minute segments. Wait to contact your lawyer until you have 2 or 3 questions gathered together.
2. Talk to your lawyer’s assistant – many routine questions or information can be answered by a lawyer’s assistant, who will bill at a substantially lower rate, if at all.
1. Negotiate with your spouse – the more you and your spouse can work out together, the less your lawyer will have to assist you to work out.